I think most Christians are happy to fail. They feel the need to say things- like whining like a baby about marriage laws in this country- but this is simply a political version of the word magic Christianity has become. We must, apparently, say the name of Jesus, and or say things we think he might like to hear, but to take something back to ourselves- like marriage, or any sacrament for that matter- is impossible.
It matters not at all that it would be fairly simple, given that we already have these organizations, as useless and bureaucrat ridden as they are, called churches, which, if they felt like it, could arbitrate. Of course, we have to be invested in not having Christian governance, because the last bit of Christian governance came from monarchs, and if we started thinking about Christian governance again, we'd have to think about not stealing from people.
No, we must have democracy, the insidious drive of politics into every sphere, and exposure to godless judges, lawyers, and child protection people.
Let me give you a clue. You are going to fail. You are going to fail badly. You are going to hum your stupid tune, and make up pretty pictures in your head, and irrationally ascribe serious import to random events. You are going to say 'in the name of Jesus' while having no sense of Him or what He might want you to do.
Already the churches accommodate divorce and various questionable arrangements, and if you look closely you can see the rest of the sacraments being devalued. Two people divorce in my diocese. The two both go take the Eucharist, and they quite possibly satisfy the 'rules'. In what sense is this a unified body of Christ? Clearly they have something against one another. They would have been stopped by the priest once. Not any more. We prefer to contemplate the mystery of how the bread and wine become the body and blood of Christ, because that is so much easier than contemplating how we become the body of Christ.
How sad it would be to find out we were just playacting. It is probably just as well- most of these churches are full of people who would make bad judgements similar to the ones made in courts today.
This post was inspired by Lydia McGrew. I have been reading What's Wrong With the World for years, but after yet another display of the ability to learn nothing, I think I'll click unsubcribe now.