Did you know the one blog called Covenant Communties is against covenant communities?
A mutual friend (female) who works with the father in the RCIA program called me trying to understand the father's comments to her when she asked his opinion on a theological aspect of the RCIA formation they were teaching. He said that he could not answer her as did not want to interfere with her spiritual relationship with her husband. I could not at first understand this comment but it dawned on me that he thought she and her husband had a (or should have a) headship relationship and that her husband was her ONLY spiritual advisor and no one could substitute or augment that.
I don't know about you, but I think this is a bad interpretation, probably by everybody involved. RCIA formation falls under Church authority. I don't see too many people withholding opinions for any reason either(except for the much vaunted right speech). And we know wives have the same access to the Church as we do, so it's ludicrous to suggest the husband would be the only spiritual advisor.
Of course, I don't know much about the Alleluia community and I suppose things could have deteriorated if they have isolated themselves too much. This is why a vibrant community must be a pretty transparent community. Secrecy and socialism destroy the very thing they claim to protect.